I’m harsh because I care…..

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Hearing that someone wants to give up on life by doing the unthinkable just makes me so angry. So when I heard this from someone who I consider a family, I was furious! I was livid! I understand that we all have our own battles to fight and we have different ways of coping but hurting yourself is definitely NOT the answer. I was so upset when I received a message with this tone and I must’ve said the harshest words but only because I care and want the best for the people that I love and care about.

“…..but it’s what you wanted…..and if it’s something that you wanted you should’ve been prepared for everything…..

SO HOW IS WANTING TO KILL YOURSELF GOING TO HELP YOU???
IF YOU DO THAT WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE YOUR SON??

DON’T BE SELFISH!!!

I KNOW THAT LIFE IS TOUGH! BELIEVE ME I’M GOING THROUGH A ROUGH PATCH IN MY LIFE TOO AND I HAVE MY MOMENTS TOO WHERE I FEEL LIKE BACKING OUT ON LIFE………I GET FRUSTRATED…AND I LET IT OUT….I LET THOSE FEELINGS OUT……

I CRY…..I WEEP…..I LET IT ALL OUT…..

THEN I FEEL BETTER…..I FEEL SAD AND DEPRESSED BUT I FIGHT…..I KEEP FIGHTING….I DON’T STOP EVEN THOUGH I SO WANTED TO QUIT AND JUST BE DONE WITH IT….EVEN THOUGH I’M EXHAUSTED….I STILL KEEP TRYING MY BEST TO FIGHT…..I CAN’T GIVE UP….I JUST CAN’T……

AND SO CAN YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

YOU CAN’T STOP FIGHTING!

STUPID THOUGHTS ISN’T GOING TO HELP YOU IN LIFE!

BEING TOO NEGATIVE WON’T DO YOU ANY GOOD EITHER!

JUST THINK ABOUT IT…..WE ARE STILL BLESSED! THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO ARE STARVING….WHO CAN’T WALK…..WHO CAN’T SEE…..THOSE WHO CAN’T SPEAK OR HEAR…..

BUT HAVE THEY QUIT ON LIFE!

NO THEY HAVEN’T! THEY ARE FIGHTING EVERYDAY……THEY ARE MAKING THE MOST OF LIFE!!!

IT’S A SHAME WHEN THE ONES THAT ARE COMPLETELY CAPABLE EVEN THINK OF TAKING THEIR OWN LIFE BECAUSE LIFE HAS THROWN THEM SOME CURVE BALLS……

WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT WAYS OF COPING BECAUSE WE’RE ALL DIFFERENT…..

BUT WE ALL HAVE ONE GOAL….TO BE BETTER INDIVIDUALS…..TO FIGHT BACK AND GET BACK ON OUR FEET WHEN WE GET KNOCKED DOWN…..

NOBODY STAYS KNOCKED DOWN FOREVER….

YOU’VE BEEN TELLING ME HOW OTHERS ARE MAKING YOU FEEL….

THAT THEY HAVE NO RESPECT FOR YOU AND BELITTLE YOU……

SO WHAT DO YOU THINK THEY ARE GOING TO SAY IF YOU HURT YOURSELF???

IF YOU DO THAT THEN YOU’RE ONLY PROVING THEM RIGHT…..

YOU’RE JUSTIFYING THEIR THOUGHTS ABOUT YOU….

THAT’S NOT THE WAY TO SOLVE A PROBLEM…..IT’S NOT THE WAY…..

DON’T BE SELFISH AND PUT YOUR SON’S LIFE IN JEOPARDY BECAUSE YOU’RE HAVING A MOMENT OF SELF-DOUBT……

DON’T YOU EVER DO THAT TO HIM!!!

IT’S NOT FAIR!

DON’T LET EMOTIONS TAKE OVER YOUR LIFE…..

 YOU HAVE TO KEEP FIGHTING….
 
YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!!!
 
AND YOU KNOW THAT TOO…..
DON’T LOSE FAITH…..DON’T…”

I’m usually not this harsh but it hurts to know that someone who used to be so full of life and strong would think this way. I know that life isn’t easy and sometimes it’s unfair but things happen for a reason. Some things happen to us that we don’t understand at the present moment but when the right time comes, the reasons reveal itself and only then will everything make perfect sense. We can’t just give up on life. We can’t quit especially when someone’s life depends on us. We cannot let life’s tragedy define who we are and our future. We have to keep fighting.

5 thoughts on “I’m harsh because I care…..

  1. Umm…It’s difficult. I’m with you on some points. But, I’m not on some points. I heard of some news that bullied kids killed themselves. I know their feelings. Really really tough problem. I cannot find the right answer.

    1. I totally understand what you mean and it’s rare that I’m harsh like this on anyone but I couldn’t bear the thought of losing someone because they quit trying when they have other options to resolve the problem. Also, I think once you’ve become a parent your main priority is your child or children and in this case the person who is like a family to me has a very young child. I’m very concerned for both of them.

      1. Umm…I should realize the situation what makes your friend do so. Even though I know, it’s still quite difficult. Please keep in touch with your friend. That’s the best way. Sorry, I’m irresponsible. I hope your friend thinks over and over not do so.

      2. Thanks so much! The tough love seems to have helped my friend realize what I was trying to say as she seems to be in better spirits right now 🙂 .

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