Daily writing prompt

What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

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Before I had a baby, people constantly asked me, “When are you going to have one?”—often followed by, “You know you’re not getting any younger.” Every time, it irritated me. Not because I hadn’t thought about it, but because I wasn’t ready yet.

Having a child is one of the biggest decisions in life, and it’s not something to be rushed just because of external pressure. Yes, I was aware of my age and the so-called ticking clock, but I also knew that I wanted things to happen when the time was truly right. I believed that if it was God’s will, it would happen at the perfect moment—seamlessly, effortlessly, and without force.

But this wasn’t the first time I’d been on the receiving end of these kinds of questions. Before people started asking about a baby, they were asking about my wedding. “When are you getting married?” came up not long after we got engaged, as if there was some unwritten rule about how soon a wedding should follow a proposal. What people didn’t know was that we had already gotten married the following year and simply kept it to ourselves. Three years later, when we finally sent out announcement cards, everyone was shocked to learn that we had been married all along! The funny thing is, even before we made it public, someone had left a comment on one of my posts asking when I was going to get married—assuming I had been engaged for too long.

And that’s the lesson here: never assume you know someone’s circumstances. Some people like to keep certain milestones private, savoring them until they’re ready to share. And that’s okay. We don’t owe anyone explanations for the choices we make. Sharing the important details of our lives with someone is a privilege, not a necessity. People need to be more aware of boundaries—respect them without needing to be told. Don’t be pushy. At the end of the day, we all deserve respect and privacy. What we choose to share is up to us.

Looking back now, I’m so grateful I trusted the timing of my life. Everything fell into place exactly when it was meant to, and now I’m experiencing the beautiful journey of motherhood in the way that feels right for me. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that some things can’t be rushed. What’s meant for you will come—right on time.