#NOTABADLOVESTORY

Kudos to the kid who bravely spoke about having an #ocd and #add. As someone who deals with OCD everyday, I can totally relate to what he’s going through and it’s not easy but everything changes with self-acceptance and learning to love that part of yourself.

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One year ago, I finally found the courage to speak openly about my struggle with OCD in front of many people and it was a life changing moment for me. It took over a decade for me to get to that level. It’s a significant part of my healing process and an important tool for my recovery along with educating myself about OCD.

And to Justin Timberlake thanks for the inspiration and for bravely speaking about your OCD and ADD. 

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“ How you look at a situation is very important, for how you think about a problem may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. When you get discouraged or depressed, try changing your attitude from negative to positive and see how life can change for you. Remember, your attitude toward a situation can help you to change it — you create the very atmosphere for defeat or victory." – Franco Harris

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  4. Kudos indeed. As a parent of grown Twins and the whole experience of To Drug or Not To Drug and then another set with “so called mild cases of OCD,” I applaud any and all efforts to help parents and children understand more fully these conditions. No magic bullets, no overnight solutions, no magic elixir and definitely no simple understandings. Nothing is worse than being different and unable to understand or explain what or how you are feeling even without the ignorance of your peers. I didn’t know squat except that if my Kids were in pain or confused, it was my job to help them find answers and to love them unconditionally. Oldest Twins graduated from military academies and are still highly functional military officers without meds but also still constantly aware and ever learning that every day is a new day to deal with new&old challenges. The more you know…………….Amen

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    1. Everyday I am still learning about it and some days are easier than others but I try my very best to stay positive. Sometimes it’s hard to explain to people what I go through and some assume that it’s just in my head…that it’s psychological…but they don’t understand how difficult it is to deal with the compulsions and obsessions. It may seem easy to handle because it’s not a physical illness but I think it’s even harder to deal with it because you can’t just make it go away unlike when you cut or some physical injury that will eventually heal with proper medication. At least with that there is a definite time frame or recovery but with OCD, it’s a completely different story.

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      1. OCD is real. Sadly so much ignorance and fear exists over conditions of the brain, a wonderful magnificient organ when it works perfect, but what a mess when it doesn’t. I remember when “Monk” series first came on TV, I thought, Wow, that would be “cool” to be like that, but as the series grew, I was so blessed to not be that different.
        I pray you receive the strength and knowledge that will help you live the best you can with this condition.
        People don’t realize you can’t catch mental illnesses/conditions/imbalances from anyone else. Ignorance makes them avoid what they don’t understand. They use hurtful “jokes” to hide their fears of what they don’t understand. Doesn’t reduce the pain they cause to others from such ignorant expressions.
        Raising children brought a lot of this close and personal. As an Empath, I can pick up on most people’s emotions and feelings, good and bad, so when my family, especially my Twins, hurt, it wasn’t easy to be at home. But the good days made it worth it, thankfully.
        I still don’t understand the whys and wherefores of how one person can absorb “feelings or vibes” from others, but I learned personally that I don’t have to understand things for them to exist. Calculus exists and I have no clue why or for what it’s useful))))))))))))))))
        My thoughts and prayers are with you. You have an open invitation to drop by anytime. Not sure I can help, but being a Mute, I listen well. I can’t interrupt anyone anymore))))))))
        Seriously, standing invitation is real.)))
        George

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      2. Thank you so much for extending your kindness and care!! I appreciate it! I’m thankful that there are people out there like you who makes the effort to understand the illness and are sensitive enough to what we go through. I totally agree with you that some people hides their ignorance with jokes that they think are funny but never realizing that they are hurting those who are suffering from the illness. I’ve experienced something like that in the past and I’ve also dealt with people, even those who I consider close with me who doesn’t understand what I go through and have no patience with me when I’m going through my compulsions and obsessions. There were times where I got so frustrated and started to hate my life and I wished that those who chooses not to understand my condition would go through it even for a day in order for them to realize that my condition is not something to make fun of but instead it requires understanding and support from their part.

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      3. You are most welcome. Sometimes our closest relatives and friends understand the least, bc they expect us to be like them or better than them. We are neither, we’re differently abled, differently minded, differently endowed. Some days I take my mind as a gift, other times a curse. But I’ve learned that like the 12 step process of AA, it’s a minute by minute and day by day process. On my bad days, I know your frustration somewhat, but I could never wish my situation upon anyone else. Most people aren’t strong enough to deal with it, so I’ll just do my best to forgive them for their ignorance and their lack of understanding and unwillingness to learn before opening their mouths. Indeed some days are way better than others, just like people, some easy to be with, some hard not to want to remove them and their souls completely from the universe))))))))))))))))))) We can only do the best we can, day by day. I can feel the empathy curse/blessing growing in my Nieces, thank goodness I’ve already lived a lot longer and know better how to accept it and hope I can teach them how to grow and learn how to deal with their “differences” I can only try my best.
        Take care of yourself and know we have to be better than most people, we’re already smarter and better looking)))))))))))) As I age, my humore grows cornier.)))))))

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      5. You are most welcome, I just hope to help in any small way to make you feel stronger in managing your conditions. Some days, it’s easier for me to help others than deal with my own differently wired brain. I’ve always known I was different, it took me a while to adapt to the notion that different was just that, not wrong, just different. Understandable that you would want others to have more knowledge and compassion towards you. Sadly, we could educate others about mental illnesses and conditions, and they still wouldn’t care unless it directly affected them, AND that’s still not a guarantee they would act differently(((((((((((((

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      7. A friend of mine calls it that, one of my siblings has neuropathy and other nerve&joint problems. Only outward indications is a pain filled face, otherwise, invisible to others. Unlike when my knee doesn’t bend, it is very visible, but not my gout. I used to worry about “not looking sick enough” Now, I just try to understand and help others deal with their ills. You can see symptoms of depression, but not the illness itself. No wonder it’s hard for others to understand imbalances that they’ve never experienced. Doesn’t keep us from being compassionate and understanding to others, at least it shouldn’t. If someone says they hurt, I assume they do unless I have good reason to think otherwise. After all, I can’t read minds, YET))) And I’d rather show compassion and be wrong than vice versa. Anyday.)))

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      11. I just hope I can help one person at a time, that helps me to learn and understand others and myself also. I’ve known for a lifetime that my brain didn’t work like the “Others.” Earlier in life, I wasn’t good at showing compassion to others outside my own family. I am thankful I have improved greatly, learned to try and see how other people live and deal with love and life, some with faith and many without. I chose faith which gives me strength and discernment on important parts of life. Made me a better person I like to believe, enabled me to live through tragedies and losses without going off deep end or wallowing in my sorrows. I believe everyone is entitled to their own choices as long as their choices don’t hurt others on purpose. No matter how good your intentions, sometimes people get hurt, again, we are imperfect beings, but still need to do best to do good and not hurt others if possible. Hang in there, hope these chats help some little bit.

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